Published January 28, 2026
It’s cold, gloomy, and dreary. We are in the midst of winter, unless you are lucky enough to live somewhere warm and don’t have to deal with this frozen tundra.
Then add on that you are grieving a loss, going through a divorce, or whatever difficult situation you are experiencing. Result? It often feels easier to just stay in bed and not have to deal with the reality around you.
That’s okay…..for a day or two. Give yourself grace and patience, as you navigate an unfamiliar new life. But you must get up and moving. Make your day purposeful and one with meaning. Don’t stay in bed for multiple days because that could lead to more suffering and heartache. You could go down the rabbit hole fast. Do everything you can to avoid that path!
Could something as simple as MAKING YOUR BED every morning lead to having a good day? YES! Studies show that making your bed can kickstart your day off in a positive way. Have you ever noticed that this is mentioned in college commencement speeches? Research shows that making your bed can determine how you feel about the rest of your day because this simple act can influence the decisions, and therefore outcomes, of your day.
It’s like telling yourself “I woke up, my bed is neat, I already accomplished a task, so it’s going to be a good day!” Set the alarm and get up. Even if you don’t have to be at work or have any commitments that day. Sleeping the day away will do you no good.
I discovered Charles Duhigg – bestselling author and Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist – while following The Mel Robbins Podcast. He suggests that we implement the ARC Theory in our daily morning routine. So after making the bed, enact ARC:
A is for Anticipation: Pick something that you are looking forward to that day. Lunch with a friend? A great workout class? A new show on TV?
R is for Relaxation: Give yourself enough time in the morning so you aren’t always rushing. Enjoy your cup of coffee in peace and do the Wordle. Take time for prayer. Look out the window to observe nature’s beauty. Allow your nervous system to find peace before your day begins.
C is for Connection: Find a moment to connect in the morning. It can be taking the time to sit and pet your dog or enjoying breakfast with your kid before school.
Although this concept is pertinent to everyone, I think this is extremely important to those who are in the grieving process. You must wake up with intention and purpose. Making your bed every morning will help to signal to your mind that you are capable of tackling your day. Then having something to look forward to will further amplify your day.
As you’re steering yourself into your new life, any little thing you do or don’t do can make a difference. Those early months can be crucial. I’m here to help you along the journey, so I’m sharing what can help with the hope that even a simple act can lead to progress.
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