Published June 19, 2025
What is THIS life transformation tip, you might be asking? THIS can play a crucial part in your healing journey. Realization of THIS, without a doubt, will affect how you live your life after the loss of a loved one.
I wasn’t thinking straight during those early months after my husband’s sudden death. I felt extreme sadness and pain. I’d wake up every morning wondering if it was all a horrific dream. I’d stumble through my day in total disbelief that he was gone.
Therefore, it took me a while to figure out THIS important component in my healing process. But once I did, it changed my entire outlook on how I approach things and basically how I live my life.
Here is THIS:
Our loved ones do not want us living heartbroken lives and weeping in our sorrows. They do not want us hiding in our homes and napping the day away. They do not wish to see us somber and mournful.
What they do want to see is you and I living robust and beautiful lives! They want to see us being happy, cherishing our time with family and friends. They yearn for us to be pursuing our dreams. They would be thrilled to know that we are doing well despite the painful loss we suffered.
I’ve said this often to my children, as well as many other family members and friends. If I was the one who died, I would want my loved ones to move forward by living their best lives.
I would want my kids to do well in school, discovering their interests and partaking in fun activities. I’d long for them to find successful and fulfilling careers. I hope someday they get married to wonderful people and have families of their own. I hope my friends meet many new friends in my absence. And yes, I would want my husband to meet someone amazing and go on to create a magnificent second half of his life.
Why do I say all these things? Because I love them so much, and I want the best for them. I want them to be happy.
The last thing I would want is for my loved ones to be in constant mourning, feeling depressed day in and day out. I couldn’t bear seeing them housebound and lonely. I wouldn’t want them quitting school or their jobs because of my passing. Please don’t be sitting by my grave, drowning in sadness.
I have no worries that I would somehow be forgotten. Because you know why? They would be honoring me by moving forward and living out their best lives! I want them to hear me screaming from the heavens above, “Go do something great! Ace that test! Go after that promotion! Take that trip! That’s how you make me proud!”
I believe that the sooner you embrace THIS concept, the healthier your mental state will be. Your personal growth journey, without a doubt, will be strengthened.
Next week, I will share my life transformation tip #2. Together with this week’s tip, both have significantly impacted my positive outlook on life.
But first, let’s work on having a great week! I’d love to hear what about what you’re doing! And as always, please let me know how can I provide grief support to you in future blogs. I welcome ideas and new topics. Please follow me on Instagram for more inspiration @sincerelyjulie_joyful_living, email me at inquiry@sincerelyjulie.com, or comment below.