Published July 17, 2025
The title of this week’s blog says it all. Rome wasn’t built in a day. This iconic city’s greatness did not happen overnight.
Thus, we can’t expect our grief journey to be accomplished overnight either. There isn’t a magical day when we will wake up and be healed. Yes, it will take time. I believe it gradually happens, little by little, in phases that you may not even realize. The timeline won’t be the same for everyone. We each have our own unique journey, factored by our upbringing, our age, the society we live in, who we surround ourselves with, our financial situation, and much more.
We live in a world now where rushing around is the norm. I know you can relate. It’s everywhere. We’re always trying to multi-task and squeeze in one more thing. We get impatient with lines at the store. People are speeding in their cars to hurry and get to the next destination. It’s like we are always pressed for time.
So it naturally follows that we want to rush the grieving process. To get it done and over with. To wake up one morning and be all okay. No wonder we feel like the weight will never be lifted because we’ve grown accustomed to a world where everything is hurried, it’s all a priority, it all must be done RIGHT NOW.
Slow down. Ground yourself. Let me announce that you don’t need to fix everything right now. Why do we tend to get 10 steps ahead of ourselves? Why are we so worried about our future? We can’t control it so why do we get so worked up about it? We don’t need to have all the answers right now!
I am guilty of it too! BUT I have learned to become more patient with myself. Once my new normal sank in and I realized how difficult my situation was, I knew I had to ease up and allow for some grace.
I used to think I had all the answers. I thought I had my life planned out, envisioning to where we would retire and by when. Boy, did that go awry or what! For further perspectives, read my blog from January What Path Are You On?
In time, slowly but surely, things will work themselves through. Your mind will be clearer. Your thoughts will become more positive. Your steps will lighten, and life won’t feel so dark and gloomy. The fog will lift. You are healing bit by bit without even realizing that you are. Refer to my blog from February You Are Making Progress and Growing Stronger for more inspiration. Are your tears lessening? Is your entire day not being consumed by what happened? Are you getting out and doing things? Maybe you handled something you never thought you could. Yes, it is happening. A new version of you, a stronger you, is emerging!!
But it takes time, along with some grit and persistence. You can’t sit there and wait for someone to come rescue you. You can’t expect to make progress while doing nothing with your time. Like with anything you take seriously, you must put in the work and effort. Those baby steps add up to milestones as long as you keep going. So get out, spend time with friends, take that trip, learn a new skill, go volunteer, and I promise you will see the new you emerge!
Remember, you must be patient and give yourself some grace. What happened was tough to accept, and it might be the hardest thing you’ve ever had to go through. Healing after loss is a voyage with many parts, so of course it will take time for your emotional recovery.
But you will get there. Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day.
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2 thoughts on “Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day…So Be Patient With Your Road to Recovery”
I feel truly heard and seen every time I read your blog.
I am glad you do! Your feelings and experiences are validated.